Thursday, July 19, 2007
Assumptions and Expectations
Ever find yourself in a situation where the reality of the situation was entirely clouded by assumptions and expectations? Why is it we let this cloud of frustration continue to loom over the players in the situation? Wouldn't it be easier to let the assumptions and expectations we hold on to so tightly, fall away. Not an easy process, but wouldn't love, acceptance, and kinship flow much more smoothly? Or should we continue building the dam with logs of expectations and logs of assumptions so that love, acceptance, and kinship only trickle into our lives or not trickle at all? In a perfect world we would not be held to expectations and assumptions, but would be accepted as we are and loved including our faults, which may not even be faults at all. These faults may only be labeled as faults by clouded eyes; an accidental mistake caused by those expectations and assumptions. Why is it that expectations and assumptions cause relationships to end or only be superficial? Why are these expectations and assumptions so important? Why do we let them control our relationships? Why do we find it so hard to let them go? Those assumptions and expectations are seeds of destruction, growing weeds to choke out any hope of reconciliation. Who wants that? Why is it so hard for us to find love in the way things are? Why are we trying to take over the position of potter, instead of remaining the clay? What happened to the idea of ebb and flow and being accepting of where it takes us? I just want to know why it is so hard for us to talk, TALK, instead of ASSUMING? To accept, ACCEPT, instead of EXPECTING? Sigh.... of frustration and exhaustion. Why is it so hard to really open your heart to change and to really learn to love that change? I am so tired of the superficial and fake, the assumption and expectation and non-communication.